Do you have a history of mental illness, anxiety, shyness, etcera? If so, are you already getting professional help? If you aren't, then why not? You don't need to publicly answer that. Just think about it. Maybe you came here because deep down you believe you still have a chance? Whatever the case, CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) teaches us to approach our problems in a factual way. It did help me deal with my own loneliness in at least some small capacity.