You are very young still actually.You are capable of dating.But,I'd focus on being simply...comfortable with who you are to the point of being relaxed.Rather than focusing on 'dating'...focus on being outgoing and social and somewhat open to what's happening around you.

'What-ifs...are a paralyzing overtone.Don't consider 'what-ifs'.They rob you of all of the 'now' experiences as they occur....What about all the what-ifs' which never come to fruition...which,in retrospect we can see were pointless worries.

The best way to engage in a friendship with a woman...is to be fine with who you are...have self-esteem (not overtly...where it's all about you....just be confident)...see a bit of humor to life....just experience her as if she were a person you are cordial with and follow the leads of your intuition and whatever indicators are there.

The best relationships...I think...are discovered in just conversation.You 'hit it off' with a person and conversation flows.

There is nothing 'stupid' about your concerns.They just are....your concerns...you are allowed them.

As far as Querty000 and yourself user42...I see nothing in your ability to communicate which is 'less-than'.Both well spoken...and that is the ice-breaker.Just flow...and be you...not terrifically restrained.

The easiest way to encounter opportunities to meet someone is to get out more.Go to events of a community sort around your area...or bowling...the park...library...public concerts...etc...whatever...and rather than being worried...be you.Be unafraid to interject...say hello...floooow.

The Byzantine...his forever 'few words' always contain the most essential elements.Only what you need to hear.Confidence.That is key.Comfortable in your skin.Byz doesn't mean rooster-strutting confidence.Just being comfortable with you.

Cantstopcrying gave you great advice.

p.s....girls of your age range may be more difficult to 'start-out 'with...perhaps a 30 something...for practice....create a friendship...see where it goes?