I don't really have any advice but I know what you're going through. My dad's new wife has a few kids and one of them has a son by one guy and is pregnant by another. She has dropped out of college, doesn't have a job and lives there with them mooching all the time. However, he dotes on her kid so often and never even goes to see his REAL grandkids.

This past christmas my niece (just turned 8 last month) asked me "who gave me this present?" I said "grandpa" meaning my dad and she goes to my step-dad and says "thank you grandpa!" right in front of my dad. I said "no sweetie, I meant MY dad" and she says "denny"?

I don't really know if that hurt him but I don't see how it couldn't. She is calling a man who isn't her REAL grandpa "grandpa" because YOU wont be active in her life.

Then he calls me talking to his "favorite" grandkid and is doing that whole "you wanna say hi to aunt jessi?" on the phone and I said to him "I've only met the kid once. I don't know him or Linda at all" and he just ignored it.

Sucks when they are like that and it sucks when it hurts the kids. Luckily you seem to have an understanding that that's just who he is. I hope your daughter can learn that it's not her - it's him.

By the way - congrats! That is absolutely amazing graduating with honors! I barely pulled it off and I know how tough it was to keep my gpa up that whole time. She (and you too bc I'm sure you were a very supportive mom) deserve a round of applause bc that is no small accomplishment! I'm sorry there is someone always there to ruin those special occasions :-/