I think I need to find this book and read it; I love the castle/rooms analogy and find it apt for me too.
Love elliemay's thoughts too, about lining up who I think I am with who I am.....these things are out of sync with me too. Like the picture/outer mask I present to the world at large of who I am, with who I am on the inside.....those two need to be in closer sync as well. Opening up more rooms in the castle will help me see 'me' better, help me 'be' me more and better, and not be afraid to be me more openly and not be hiding so much of me......