((lachrymose))

I wasn't ever extraverted, I was introverted, but I made the same mistakes in my youth. As soon as a person showed some interest in me, I put myself completely into the relationship. Sometimes, I'd get lucky and the person was "good". Often, however, they weren't a great fit.

It usually turned out to be a "user". A person who got everyone to do whatever they wanted them to do by pushing them around emotionally. Freaking cruel people.

A few of those experiences and I began to turn even more inward. I don't think that's the best thing to do. A more wise, less depressive, technique would be to frequently remind yourself to take relationships more slowly. Don't put all of the effort into starting a relationship. Remind yourself that healthy relationships contain give and take on both sides. Don't reveal all of your life experiences with new friends. It should take time, trust, and a bond before intimate experiences are shared with others.

It isn't easy to take things slowly when you are so eager to have friends. Some people are just blessed with the gift of easy friend making. That is a very rare gift though. Remind yourself that most people do have to work to make new friends. And most people have anxiety about making new friends, which does follow us into adulthood. Just not as strong as it is in teenage years. So, it will become easier as you get older. Hold onto that thought as a hopeful reminder.

Hope that my words help you through more easily. Best wishes!