I wrote my therapist letter explaining to him that I cannot possibly separate therapist him from human him. I used the frame analogy. "Like a broken frame I'm not sure this can be fixed. We can try and glue it back together, but there will always be cracks in my image of you". I told him that no human is perfect and knowing "human him" allowed me to see the flaws that he carries as one. I also let him know, incase there was confusion that yes eventually I would have to accept the humanness in people. But if I hadn't done it yet, that it would take the boundaries of a therapist to help me. If I don't trust even my own brother, who is close to his age, who I've known since birth and who has never done anything to harm me and has always been supportive, why on earth would I trust a total stranger?