This strikes a chord with me. It is something that has been an undercurrent in my therapy--bringing the inner and outer me's in synch, becoming more congruent, authentic... My T is a great role model in this. He is authentic. He is congruent. (That is one reason, I think, that it is a joy to be around him.) In his presence I try to be authentic too. I never say something I don't mean with him or that is not true. I am true to myself and try to let him see that truth too. It is a place to start--to be authentic in therapy. I strive for this in the outside world too. It feels so good when one's selves are congruent. It is very reinforcing, and makes it harder to be incongruent. (It just begins to feel so false and awful.)