I am the same way - for whatever reason I go after guys I think I can "fix". I am extremely driven and go for everything I want. I work all the time and like it. My bf is the opposite. He has been done with his masters research for over a year.......I used to nag and beg for him to work on it but it just doesn't happen. He gets frustrated with it, puts it down and wont look at it again. It bothers me that he isn't driven like I am but if that's what he wants, that's what he wants.

Does his not being driven impede on your growth personally, professionally or otherwise? I think there is a difference between being lazy and relying on others for everything and just being okay with getting by. If he is bringing home some money or at least looking for work etc....vs sitting on the couch not doing a damn thing.

Maybe he is just perfectly fine being just 'okay'? I always have to be the 'best' at everything. Makes for a lot of frustration and some crying lol but everyone is different.

What you need to figure out is if you need someone like that. Are you okay being with someone you feel isn't driven enough for you? Have you ever thought that maybe you are not okay with his not being driven because of how it might reflect on you?

I just know it sucks having to explain to people "my boyfriend started his masters in 2008 and still isn't done". But I have to keep telling myself that others' success doesn't say anything about me as a person. Just wondering if you thought maybe that could be an underlying issue?