So my ex-girlfriend became very close to me in a short period of time, and we had a physically and emotionally intimate relationship. I would say that she knows me better than anyone (besides myself!) and I have told her my insecurities and problems. We just recently decided that it wouldn't work out between us, so we are remaining friends. Well, one of my insecurities is my body and I feel overweight and unhealthy, and she knows that and has seen it. Sometimes she says things that make me feel beautiful, but other times she says things that bring me down... The thing is, I feel too self-conscious to work out and since I have a low self-esteem I try to ignore focusing on my body -- so when I exercise I just feel worse about my body. She keeps asking me how often I work out, how much effort I've put into exercise, how often I stretch, telling me to do cardio every day. I don't know if she is doing this on purpose to try to hurt me or to help me gain a better body image, but she claims that she is doing it as a form of encouragement. But I just feel like these are negative messages that I'm not good enough as I am now. But her advice is valid, and if I change my body I would probably be happier with it, it's just coming across in a forceful way or in a way that seems personal. We're not even dating anymore so she really shouldn't have control over me or be concerned with how I look.. I'm just confused. What do you guys think?