healingangel,

It's just great that you're trying to raise your daughter to recognize and express her feelings. Her OWN feelings, not things she's been taught are "right and proper." Back when I was growing up (a long time ago) we were really taught (without saying so) that only certain feelings were acceptable and that others had to be rejected. Nobody of course SAID this, it was just the message that came across with all the other things we were taught without saying. I would guess, though, that this kind of "lesson" is just as difficult to learn for young children as other lessons. To learn to be "conscious" of feelings and acknowledge them takes a lot. The best of luck to you and your daughter! Take care.