I just asked this same question to another member who is BP and has a lot of dating experience. She said she would tell them when she felt comfortable that the relationship was going to go somewhere.

We also discussed the fact that a lot of men post on the dating websites stuff like no mental illness, drama or medicated people respond. That was very upsetting to me when I got back into the dating scene after a very bad manic episode, divorce and custody battle and it added to my fear of sharing the informaition with anyone. I was with the same man for 20 years and was diagnosed in year 17 of our realtionship so I've never had to per se tell someone I was dating that I was BP.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I've been episode free for 4 years and am finally on the right meds and feeling better about myself. I have had a boyfriend for 9 months but it was fairly easy for me to tell him because he is a recovering alcoholic and has had some difficult life issues. I still waited for a few dates to tell him but felt safer that I wouldn't be judged by him.

The advice I did receive if my boyfriend and I don't work out and I go back into the dating scene is to be very confident and straightforward that you have a mood disorder that you are taking medication for and that you are doing well or something along those lines.

Boy it felt good to hear it from someone else. The member I was chatting with did find a good partner/spouse but she did date a lot of people that had issues and that she was trying to save. She had some great advice for the situation I'm in today with my boyfriend who I love but who has more serious issues than me. She asked me to really think what am I getting out of the relationship. I truly have to analyze this so may be in your shoes soon.

Good luck!