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Apr 13, 2011, 08:01 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi David ~
You said in one sentence that she offered to go to counseling and then she refused to go ~ which is it?? WILL she go to counseling with you? It sounds like you BOTH need it. It would certainly be worth a try to save the marriage since you have a precious little girl.
One of your problems seems to be communication. I don't think you communicate at all.  You may TALK to one another, but no one listens!!
And there's a lot of resentment between you ~ Resentment is like a cancer - it eats you from the inside out. The people we resent don't know we resent them, so all we're doing is hurting ourselves. If you hold a grudge against your wife, what good does it do? She doesn't know it.  It's just eating YOU up. So you might just as well get rid if the grudge! And bringing up things from the past is a no-no. It doesn't solve things ~ it just makes things worse, so why do it?
Counseling would help both of you set boundaries and learn to get along better. I hope she'd be willing to go. You both owe it to your little daughter. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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