Well suga,

Many people feel as though they are lonely. Especially when you are in your 20's. Even if you have family and friends you can still feel somewhat alone. People often feel that whenever they feel this way, there is something wrong with them.

But, the truth is, it is normal. We all have our different perspectives on life all during life. We all have our own questions and we observe others and compare ourselves with others and wonder, why am I not like this person, or how come I can't understand this other person? And we often ask ourselves, why don't I seem to know who I am?

Well, what we don't realize is that we do know more about ourselves than we think. And we often see how we differ from others and think that we need to be more like others. Did you know that OTHERS feel the same way? There have been studies of several different species of monkeys and within those studies we get a base for basic behavior. And it has been found that monkeys are always studieing each other and vying for attention and trying to identify their position within a group.

Chimpanzees are our closest relatives so to speak and they do have a form of social positioning. But what is interesting about them is that it can be broken if one of them creates a tool that the others can use as well. So, there is a way to break the social positioning. So it is with us.
But if you look at animals in general, there is also an order that takes place and a testing for who is stronger and positioning within a herd or
species.

Humans in general, because we are so very intelligent, often get the basics very confused. We don't realize that within each and every one of us there is a basic striving to be stronger and better, it is the way we are designed, nature on the whole is designed that way.

Thruout our lives we always wonder, are we there yet? This is because we really don't realize that we are programed to keep striving and learning and thinking about position and improvement. It is nature driven, what we are born with, the need to grow and survive and be strong. So, it is really natural to wonder if we are there yet. The answer to that question is NO. We will never really feel like we are there yet. And, this feeling is infact normal.

So, that being said, we have to accept that to some degree we will be on our own journey. We have to accept that we will always be learning and growing and looking for answers our whole lives. It is the way we are designed. Life is a personal experience. If we can learn to accept this than we can let go of feeling that we are alone. Lonelyness is normal,
there is never going to be anyone like us, we are all unique.

So we just have to get to know ourselves and see what we can accomplish and learn while we are here. We have to stop and realize that there are going to be things that we do and feel that are different from others. The goal is to learn about ourselves and say, ok, I am looking to improve myself the best way I can and I will always be learning. We can never be another person, but we can learn from other people. And we have the rest of our lives to grow and experience.

Open Eyes