Hi I am back. It is been a while. I was really busy : I found a new job, made new friends... For a while I wasn't confronted with game playing people anymore. Boy what a relief. It gave me the strength to change my attitude.
Since the beginning of January I ran into 3 "friends" who had driven me crazy. A childhood friend and 2 guys I liked. I finally understood that my childhood friend has a very negative image of me and that she wanted my friendship to boost her self-confidence because she thinks I am smarter than she is (go figure).
I understood that whatever I do, she will think so because of her lack of confidence and that she isn't really interested in my friendship. So I finally said goodbye.

The mister "I don't know what I want" I talked about in another post thought he could start his little games all over again. I avoided him but he wouldn't understand. So this time I wrote a note saying : "What do you want ? I don't understand anything. Leave me alone with your jokes. If you can't, just don't greet me. Life is short and I am not your doormat" (waow I had no idea I could write things like that). Since then, voilà : he greets me and that's that. Thank you!! He is really pissed and from what I heard, he is telling everybody it was a big mistake being nice to me, that I was the one crazy about him for no reason at all etc... Poor pussycat. Ouch. Not used to getting hit back ? Too bad. Maybe he is going to wise up. If so we may be able to be friends.

The second guy, his friend, wanted to go on with his own game : I pretend to be not interested but I do what I can to meet you, I make you believe that I like you for you to stick around. No way. I know the game. Don't want to play.
As soon as I said let it be, I don't want to play anymore, he stopped and started behaving normally. He was angry at me but he acted responsibly. Now when he asks me : what do you want to do ? I answer What do YOU want to do ? Make a choice. Thanks I appreciate.
Because he has been afraid of his girlfriend, he said in public that I was just a colleague, no friend. Really ? Next time I see him, I will tell him that he has to make another choice. Either way is fine (nobody is going to die), but the choice is final and he has to stand for it. Let's see how that works. He is a nice guy but a nice guy with bad faith. He has been hitting on me for months and now it is not true just because he is afraid his girlfriend might find out and because he is not able to make a choice. For this very reason I never started anything other than friendship with him. If he doesn't want more, OK, but it is not a reason to pretend we are strangers. He has always shown a queen interest in my life, my career, how I see the world, my values, he as been cheering me up when I was down, but from now on I want clear statements. On everything. I think it is necessary.

Finally another girl (employee of him) gave me about one year ago her phone number. She wanted to go out etc... After a while I understood that the REAL reason was that she wanted me to stop coming to the office to meet him. She wanted me to see him with his girlfriend to discourage me from what she calls "my twisted game". Actually, she can't stand me, she is "friends" with the girlfriend and at one point she was in love with him (she is looking up to him like a teenager). She even tried to hitch me with one of his colleagues. I played stupid because I didn't want to cause trouble in the office. But over the months she couldn't leave it alone. So I tried to talk to her. I sent her an SMS asking if we could meet. Of course she had no time, so I wrote to her in another SMS that I wasn't interested in what she said about her employer. She told me she showed the SMS to everybody to prove that I was harrassing her (!!!), that I was paying a game, that I was after 2 men (yeah, but not at the same time!!! and they knew it). That "everybody" agreed that "they" had been too friendly with me. She told me that nobody here was my friend (nice how she talks for other people).
Is it a case of "if I can't have him, you shouldn't have him either ?" (I don't think there is anything other then flirting between them. Would be suicidal anyway since she knows the girlfriend and she is the cousin of his colleague).
It is interesting how people react once you tell them the truth. It may be true that "everybody" said that more or less, since within a month I told 3 of them that their behavior was not all right and since they may be hit in their pride. So I guess it is the "hard to swallow time". Let's see who is going to want a real friendship (well, she won't and that's good). Should have done this right away. At least from now on whatever relationship comes out of this will be a true and sincere one. Don't you think ?