Stolly, I have had issues finding men's separation and divorce support and recently I've found this website:
http://www.separatedmen.com/articles...-dont-know.asp
I'm close to your age and in a very similar situation. Heads up some of the material at the link is Christian based. I'm not trying to thump a bible here or be offensive. I'm straight that God isn't the whole answer IMHO. I'm only advising what has been working for me. The material is offered by Dr. Mike Marino. Google up his free seminars and program if you're interested in more info. Please take what you want (or need) and leave the rest. I most sincerely hope things get better for you with this recent rough patch.