Bethy,

Time0 has made some very valid points there. You really are worth more than the way that your husband treats you. You deserve better than this! What are you afraid of about the idea of divorce? I understand that divorce is hard, and uncomfortable, and even painful, but sometimes there are good reasons for divorce. Has this subject been discussed in your marriage counseling? I know that you don't want a divorce. But you are not happy the way things are either, and I don't know your husband but some of the things you have said don't show a very high likelihood that he is going to change. Which would be a bigger failure - getting a divorce and establishing a better life for yourself, or giving up on life entirely? I would see finding a life that allows you to be you, and to reach your potential as a tremendous success, regardless of whether or not you stay married through that process.

Rap