I can totally relate. My mom was very distant, also. So I also need a lot of reassurance that I am loved, wanted, needed, etc. In the past I've had a hard time finding someone who can meet my emotional needs. Right now I'm with someone who somewhat meets those needs. I mean he's always telling me how much he loves me all the time, how important I am to him, how much I am wanted and needed. All the things that I so desperately have needed all my life. The only problem is he can sometimes be emotionally abusive. I guess you could say I'm staying because I'm getting something out of it...something that I've never had before. I guess that's why I put up with all of his crap.