Thanks DW.
She hasn't yet insisted on a frontal lobotomy, so I'll go for the tests and see what emerges. I agree that making a diagnosis in the first interview is difficult, and we will need to watch what happens over time. The last 2 pdocs had me on Epilim, Lithium & Seroquel & considered it BD-I. I was adamant it was BD-II. I tried the Seroquel and became a 36hr zombie and felt extremely disorientated. So I refused to take it any more. I subsequently had the most wonderful and sometimes scary experiences ranging from simple sounds and fleeting sights to hour-long complex auditory and psychic hallucinations (delusions?). I think that is what prompted my current pdoc to dig deeper. When she began talking to my wife as if I wasn't there, I had a distinct feeling she thought I was so out of my tree then that she needed someone else sane to talk to.
%^$&* that hurts, whether its true or not!!!

Looking at this thread a couple of days after the event, I feel the pdoc was poking hard on some very sore nerves, and I was clearly in denial about what was going on.

But realising that doesn't make it any easier to accept. I am still terrified, confused, and desperately want to get off this planet and board a shuttle to the furthest galaxy on a new mission that has nothing to do with chemical imbalances and life crises.