Hi Lynn,

My wife and I are living in two different places. It's complicated but neither of us have decided on a divorce. This isn't the first time we have been separated. Neither of us can really afford our own attorneys at this time. Because we both love our daughter, we set up a visitation schedule. We already have decided what property is who's. We both agree that the visitation schedule is fair. That is in theory. In practice there are few days she doesn't call me to watch our daughter all day. I love watching our daughter. Yet whenever my wife doesn't want to take care of her she asks me to watch her. Sadly, that has happened quite often in the past separations. I don't want it in this one.