This saddens me so very very much. My husbands first wife had a pattern somewhat like this . He always went to get his daughter no matter what, to make a long story short she began refusing him visitation then hiding her from us. And eventually we could not see her for years, now she is grown up we don't know were she is and she will not have anything to do with us . I have tied to contact her through various social media avenues and she ignores them. So I guess my jaded advise would be just be d''m glad you get to see her cherish every second! Get a calender and every time u have her when it is "your wifes job" write it down but take your daughter this will come in handy if there is a custody battle.