Oh wow, I'm so sorry your T responds to you in that way. I think answering your questions with a question must be really frusrating for you.

I think I must have one of the most open and caring T's on the planet, because she is always willing to share things about herself with me. I love when she self-discloses, because I feel like she trusts me by sharing it with me and she's also allowing me to build trust in her in that I then know she understands and can relate to some of my circumstances via her own experiences.

To answer your question, I didn't ask her, she shared it with me when I first started seeing her. I was telling her how ashamed I am of having been molested and how hard and embarrassing it is to talk about. She immediately started telling me how committed she is to helping me. She said she feels honored that we (her clients) chose her and also honored that God uses her to help us. She started crying and said that she knew since junior high school that this is what she wanted to do. I cried and told her thank you. My T is awesome and is always open and willing to share and relate things from her personal life that she feels will help me get a better understanding of something I'm going through.

I really hope your T decides to share why she chose to be a therapist with you. It feels great to hear why your T chose to be a T.