I like that your T reflected the question back on what you would gain from the answer? I would have a hard time coming up with an answer for why I asked a personal motivation question like that other than wishing I could be like my T or understood motivation better. I like connecting up why I ask/wonder/think certain things at a particular moment too (yes, I'm weird that way :-) What were you all talking about or what was your line of thinking that you "suddenly" asked that?

It can hurt when people don't answer our questions and I sometimes felt a bit ashamed I had asked them when T sent them back at me rather than answering (or when she just sat and stared at me a moment, thinking of how she wanted to respond :-) like I had done something wrong, but concentrating on how T responded, and her "words" rather than what I felt or thought I wanted at the moment got to be much more useful to me than any actual answer to the question. Think of it exactly like it was a school with a "teacher" instead of the one-on-one relationship it is. T isn't trying to be "cold" or "mean" but is trying to help. It would probably be easier for her to reply to the question, throw off something about "love helping people" but that wouldn't have the potential to move you forward in your own life, which is what you are paying her for.