i dont know that i wish our T was our mom...well... i guess deep down some of the younger alters sure do. it would have been nice to have a mom like her, thats for sure. Our T is sorta re-parenting us also, like another poster said. She sits next to us on the couch and holds us, she fixes our hair for us and lets the younger alters play with her hair, we usually have a snack together, she calls us names like sweetie. She even gave us a little birthday party last year, actually we celebrated together because our birthdays are like two days apart so we had cake and presents for each other, and she brough presents for all the little inside kids. Our own family doesn't do stuff like that. And sometimes we get jealous of the way she talks about her kids--she is proud of them and she obviously loves her kids-- we've never had anyone talk that way about us. She knows its important to us when we do something hard and she says she is proud of us or says "I knew you could do it". Our T is only about 9-10 years older than us though... so maybe she could fit as an older sister, she isn't old enough to be our mom.