I am so shy. No that's not even the word: phobic. I literally have a phobia of rejected, as well as of being liked. Does that even make sense??????????

Today I got home and there were two messages on my answering machine from when I was away from cute guys that I met about going on coffee dates, which I am literally thinking about not answering. Sometimes when I see a cute guy looking at me or they start talking to me, it makes me feel worse!

Because it brings up all these feelings of maybe not being good enough! (Ouch).

A couple of times I have tried to bring this up and get help in therapy, but I feel like if you are a shy person, they just walk all over you more. (Oof!)

My last therapist even said most people wouldn't like me because I'm so nervous around them. (Ugh!)

More testimony: my last boyfriend and I played phone tag for more than 2 months before our first date, and at the end of it, he said, "you know I believe you when you say you're not playing hard to get.... you ARE hard to get."

Just curious is anyone else here this thin skinned when getting to know people?