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Old Apr 15, 2011, 04:09 PM
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Hi kayx34, welcome to Psych Central!
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Originally Posted by kayx34 View Post
I've been thinking about my guy friend a lot lately, and can't seem to pin point whether I like him or not.
When I find myself wondering about whether I feel some way or not, I find it most useful to interpret that as: I feel that way and I don't.

So I'd say: you like him, or some things about him, or some of the ways you feel around him. And there are some things about him, or about guys in general, or about the way you feel around him (or them) that you don't like. Now you get to be with both of those and choose what you're willing to accept: to keep seeing him, for instance, and accept that the parts you don't like so well will be there too, while you learn to deal with them; or to keep your distance and accept that the parts you did like won't be there, while you learn to get along without them. There's no right answer -- or if there is, you get to say which is right for you.

Good luck, and keep posting.
Thanks for this!
lastyearisblank, MichelleNY