I understand what you are saying, AAAAA. I don't always want to be with them. Particularly the younger sister who is bossy and rude. I have turned down invitations to Easter dinners and such when I knew she would be there. In fact my other sister avoids her too. She told me that she often schedules vacation days when she knows the younger sister will be working so that she can have some peace without being bossed around.

The 'nice' sister often treats me well. We don't have the same kind of bond that she has with the other sister but I know she means well. For my 50th birthday my 'nice' sister bought me 5 Breyer model horses, each for a decade of my life.

I was talking to the 'nice' sister on the phone this evening and she mentioned that she and younger sister were attending a wedding Saturday. Both sisters used to work for AT&T so I asked if it was a former coworker's wedding. She said no, it was a nurse that my sister works with. Then she said that our mom was going to attend also. To me that seems a bit strange to go to a wedding when you know neither the bride nor groom. I could understand wanting to bring somebody if you would know nobody at the wedding but my sister will see coworkers there. They do this sort of thing often as if the trio are a unit that cannot do things as individuals. So in their minds I don't think they are consciously trying to exclude me, it's more that they have been codependent for so long that it feels natural to them.

That's a good idea to arrange to meet my aunt and uncle myself so that I don't get left out again. They both have always been good to me and I would like to see them.