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Originally Posted by Elana05
Do you think if you were always told you did something not-quite-right by a parent it is more likely to stick with you, even when you feel like you should have outgrown it? I'm in my 30s now. Other people seem able to brush it off when a parent chides them or questions their decisions. I have the hardest time with letting it go. Whenever I make a decision I hear my dad's voice - wondering why I did what I did and emphasizing that it was the wrong move.  |
by all means, elana. your father drilled that into your head until it became a false belief that you believe about yourself. this causes you to keep returning to a feeling you are always wrong. i found that i needed to replace the false beliefs about myself. using sort of an affirmation. i would write it down and carry it with me. everytime the false belief popped up i'd re-read the affirmation. such as-"i'm not perfect. no one is. i am human and value my opinion. i make mistakes like everyone else. i may not always be right but the world will not come to an end if i'm mistaken. i am okay."
hope this may help.BTW being an ACOA plays a part in what you feel negative about yourself, too.
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