It's not that they're dating or that I care if they are...I know our relationship is over and as I said I have feelings for someone else (not that I've acted on them except to tell him how I felt and I'm even seeing him for now (because we both don't think it's appropriate) let alone moving him in or that I intend to jump right into another relationship without consideration for the impact that that would have on my son)...but I do have feelings for someone else and I was honest and did tell my husband that so it's not really for me to be like "how dare you?" even if they were "dating" which I in all honesty I really don't think they are (but then I'm just taking his word for it which is very sketchy at this point...what bothers me is what impact having her in our home at an already confusing time for him, has on our son. I just want to get him away from all of the craziness...my house is just not a healthy environment for him now. I finally got the money I needed today for the lawyer so I'm going to call tomorrow to make an appointment. My husband is convinced that the mortgage company will simply transfer the loan and tilte into his name because they have to if we are getting divorced...does this sound right...I just seem to think not...I work in finance and I can't see how he could do that without requalifying for the mortgage based on his own income(which he could just never do) My lawyer told me that I could technically stay in the house with my son (based on the argument that that is is home and it is in his best interests to stay there) until I remarried or refinanced if I wanted to push the issue but I don't really... I just want to be fair. Oh and that's the other thing...he doesn't want to use lawyers..says he'll be more agreeable if we it pro se "cuz I'm not making him waste money on a lawyer" that just scares me...I can't stand this...just want to move out, hopefully the lawyer will give me the legal OK.