Darkeyes is so right...distance yourself from his family...they may have been related..but they're just looking for someone to blame and cancer is not negotiable....nor did it have anything to do with you...so don't increase your pain by dealing w/them at this time....talk w/your local hospice organization...they aren't just for the last days and weeks...they have incredible ppl who have been there and can give you the support you so deserve...and lastly...(lot's of love sent your way)....you deserve it....grace