I would go with the attornery. It sounds to me that your husband is trying to con his way out of responsiblity. The best way to go is definatetly thru lawyers if he don't like it oh well. A divorce isn't easy no matter how much you try to make it so. The only civil ones I have seen are the ones are those with the people who actually are willing to be civil. ( Both Parties not pertaining to your case) From what I understand about how he acts I don't think you will have any problem with custody issue. Mooning you at 2 am in the morning and throwing things about doesn't sound like a stable home life for child to be brought up in. And I am pretty sure that any judge would agree.
Now, relax rmm5497 .
I'm sending you a big hug!
Carmen