Thank you for replying. Yes that is something we have talked about, I, like your girlfriend enjoy that as well, but it is something that has never happened. Not sure if he is uncomfortable with it or not, but he has never done it with me. I am not against his "practice" as you said, but am against him not wanting to share with me. I am a very open person & would be more than happy to watch movies with him, read stories or anything else he would enjoy as long as we both were getting some sort of pleasure. I guess part of the underlying issue is....WHERE HAS THE ROMANCE GONE???? Yes it is difficult to write this, but unless I get this off my chest I will never be able to get past it. I just wish he would discuss this with me instead of me needing to asking complete strangers. But thank you for your insight.