desirae...when it all comes down to it (so to speak)...our family members are just like most folks...they reach out when they're in need....they realize that they need the family connection...but sometimes it's just too late...sometimes not....at least...check it out....they may be sincerely reaching out for something that they should have maintained a long time ago...(and it can be valuable)....who knows? all that I can say is that the longer I live, the less judgemental I am and the more open minded I am....love ya....grace