Hello, tara. I think it is wonderful you are able to make yourself do what you do not want to do. Because you are able to forge ahead, however, does mean everyone can. Yes, it is frustrating at times to hear people use what we perceive as excuses to avoid working on important issues. This site, however, is one of support.

Many times I have been told to just get over it. I ask those who tell me this if they view my inability to just get over it as a personal weakness. Most often I am told yes, that is their perception. Some tell me they do not think I am lazy. Oh, how wonderful. The thought of intentionally remaining in a mindset that has visited so much hurt and unhappiness is so anathema I am stunned at the suggestion.

I have thought a lot about what I gain by being dysfunctional. Some sympathy, perhaps. SSDI payments that I paid the premiums for. Meeting some wonderful therapists who I paid to talk to me. Trying some medications that perhaps were beneficial because I thought they were.

Comparing what I gained with what I lost is an interesting process. Maybe I am deluding myself when I conclude being perceived as a useless deadbeat milking the system for all its worth is not so great.

This thread does present issues worthy of discussion. On a personal level, I certainly do not feel threatened by the conclusions of others who disagree with my thoughts based on what I have experienced.

To me, the issue is how does this discussion benefit the Community? Who is wise enough to know that others who post here are making excuses rather than going about the business of getting better? A bunch of therapists who had the opportunity to get to know me rather well concluded they were unable to help me. How many others who post here have had similar experiences?