There are some things we can just accept when they aren't critical to the functioning of the marriage. Understanding his past is very important to accepting how & why he reacts the way he does.

It is important however for him to be more careful about his health. So many things can show up as something else when they are life & death conditions. My father had flu like symptoms......after he had already had 9 bypass surgery 5 years prior & they had just changed his meds.....but thinking it was the flu & he had just gone to his heart specialist (who just changed his meds), he ignored the symptoms as being heart failure & ended up dying the morning he had decided that he would go to the Dr that day. That is extreme, yes.....I was one that would push myself constantly.....even having pneumonia....until I was really sick because I didn't think it was anything serious until I wasn't able to breath well......& I'm really bad with injuries....I will go several weeks hurting just to know if it's something that "won't just go away on it's own". It is difficult some times to know whether something is more serious than it seems & we always hate to be accused of being a hypocondriact(sp?). Sometimes it's hard to determine the line between when to go to the Dr & when not to. Sometimes we just have to trust their judgment & pray that it's good.