My boyfriend and I call my ex himself so we can talk about things in front of our kids or course not anything too heavy duty but little things. I go back in forth between calling him my ex or by his name. When you have kids, the ex comes up in conversation so as I said I tend to go back and forth between ex-husband and his name.

Since we both plan lots of play dates with the same children and see the same parents I never say anything deragatory about the ex.