well, the one aspect of this whole situation that keeps "jumping out" at me is that HE has the problem and YOU'RE the one that seems to be trying to solve it.....You've done nothing wrong....but noone can "compartmentalize" their life for very long....i.e. She is my true love and they are my objects of lust....it doesn't work...and he's looking for a way to keep you and keep his problems too.....that's so unfair.....he needs to deal with this....not just you.....