(Ugh, I just lost this whole post. I'll try to rewrite.)

When people mention their disorder at the beginning of their post, I usually assume they're just putting the situation in context. If someone's acting spazzy and high strung, it would help to know if they have a bipolar disorder or ADHD. My response could vary quite a bit depending on the nature of their disorder. It's helpful to know someone's history and their general issues. This isn't always the case, but I tend to give the poster the benefit of the doubt.

However, I do believe that oftentimes people will take on a self defeatist attitude and fail to seek out all the treatment options available. Oftentimes, they don't even know that these options exist. In my opinion, this is largely due to the progressive, medical approach we have taken to mental illness. The most supportive people are pushing pills and visits to the doctor - which of course have their place in treatment. And the most unsupportive are telling us to just 'get over it,' which obviously can't happen and usually just makes patients resentful and defensive. I think many are unaware that there is quite a bit they can do to help themselves, although a good therapist should make this information available.

The other problem with self-help is that it can be incredibly difficult, painful, and a lot of hard work. Restructuring my thought process, creating a good schedule, and changing almost all my habits probably saved my life. However, I'm not cured and when something falls through the cracks, it shows. I'm not 'over it' but I'm functional, although I can't even describe what went into the process. I know that during my worst times I would not have had the energy to begin the process. Sometimes it's all you can do to get out of bed. At times I couldn't even do that and probably needed hospitalization. Depending on what stage you're in you might need to take that next step forward, call for help if you can't, or just hang on for dear life. Like you, I'd probably be very worried for those who expect someone else to fix them, but that doesn't mean that people who aren't rapidly making progress aren't doing the best they can.

As for having friends and loved ones accommodate you, I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, some accommodation can be necessary. I know some people who are very triggering and will tell others to just 'get over it.' This bullying actually hinders my progress and creates a very negative environment. It's especially dangerous if I'm in a vulnerable state that day. So I can recognize that some accommodation is a good, even necessary thing. On the other hand, people can go overboard and even use it as a crutch (I probably have before). I also try not to have unrealistic expectations of my friends and family. I'd say that there's a definite balance that needs to be kept, and things often change in this area depending on how I'm feeling.

(Sorry, might edit this. The other version was better. Hoping I got the point across since I lost focus part way through.)