Well, what have you tried so far? Have you tried dating other women? I would think that the perfect women for you would be one who wouldn't mind being with you even when your depressed. About getting her back, I don't know what to tell you expect i read this book once.. i"ll have to look into finding the name of it, but the author of the book was saying that he lost his girlfriend, and then they got back together, and then she dumped him again. It wasn't until he started getting himself a life that things were ok. I don't remember waht he did but i remember him saying that he was just doing stuff where he was supported like going to church, and doing stuff where he had fun, and something to contrubute to the relationship. If it works or not i don't know, but it's somethng to think about.