Oh, I see - that makes sense! And you're right, small problems can turn into larger ones if left unresolved. Sounds like you've got a really good head on your shoulders - you're very smart to realize all this before something gets worse. I'm glad you are going to talk to him about this!

I know exactly what you mean about getting frustrated! Sometimes after trying to talk about it and nothing changes, I didn't even want to try anymore because I felt like I was throwing myself at him all the time - like Peg Bundy (Married w/children show), ya know? And I got hurt too because it is such an emotional thing for me and it's when I feel the closest to him. So, when we weren't having a lot of intimate time, I felt distanced from him. I also started to think what the heck is wrong with me? Don't guys complain all the time about not being able to get sex from their wife? And here I am, wanting it al lthe time and he's not interested!

I didn't mention this earlier...but my fiance did admit he was suffering from depression - that he has for most of his adult life. So, he went to counseling and is on medication now (we both are) and his interest in sex has improved quite a bit. He admitted that was the main reason he was having difficulty - that he just didn't have the motivation to do much of anything.

Good luck to you with your talk tonight - hopefully he will be willing to listen and share with you. Let us know how it goes (if you feel comfortable of course!)