Get a lawyer. Get everything in writing and get you and your son's interests protected. Make sure you let your lawyer know about everything that is going on in the home that is making you uncomfortable or that may be detrimental to your son (the "mooning incident", the girl moving in, etc.). The only people that you owe anything to is yourself and your son. This road is going to be tough enough without you having to worry about making things easier for your husband. When I went thru my divorce many years ago I was on your side of the fence. It's not easy to watch your life change like this, but for what it's worth, we're here for you.

It takes awhile, but it does get better, I promise.

bp

"A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart."