I don't think you're a bad patient or being unreasonable either. IMaybe you should ask your T what she gains by not answering you genuinely normal, curious question.

I ask my T all kinds of stuff and she has never refused to give me an answer. She's been open and honest and connecting with me. If she reponded like your T is now I'd be so frustrated. I'd feel like she is being really disrespectful of me and, like you said, treating me like I'm just a number. I'm sorry she's being so frustrating about this.