So here's another part to the story. My bf's ex wife is a drug addict but has his daughter most of the time. Things are going downhill for his ex fast and he could potentially get custody of his daughter soon. He was saying that he missed her and I said will you might have her full time soon. I asked him tonight if he was ready for that to happen and that it was a lot of work. He said yes, of course, I'm ready if it happens tomorrow.

He still doesn't have his license, doesn't have a car, which I know will take time to buy one, is out of work and hasn't really been looking for a job. He doesn't have a room set up for her at his place either. She is 8 years old and they still sleep in the same bed when she visits.

I'm thinking how is our relationship going to work if he gets her full time? We've been dating 9 months and we've spent a majority of our time together when we do and don't have the kids. His daughter doesn't like her father to show me affection so if she fusses about it he stops kissing or whatever. I got frustrated the other day and said something to his daughter that he wasn't hurting me and it's ok we've been going out 9 months but to no avail. All my boyfriend said was she's only 8 and she's sensitive so I said is it going to go on forever. His response was I don't know. His daughter will always be his daughter and I am just a girlfriend. Everything he said was in defense of his daughter. He didn't say sorry honey you know I love you and we will get past thing or anything reassuring just again she's 8 and she's sensitive.

I'm not trying to replace his daughter as I never will, but I fear for a future with this man if we aren't allowed to be affectionate with one another or sleep in the same room because it upsets her. He gave no indication to me that he was going to put his foot down or will he continue to give in to this.

Sorry I am rambling, but I just had to get this down.

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