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Apr 20, 2011, 10:03 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2011
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Originally Posted by learning1
I think my t was imitating my facial expressions, or trying to. Does that make sense? Do t's do that? I noticed it because at one point he kept making a really exaggerated sad face (looked really exaggerated and strange to me). He kept switching between that and smiling as I talked about something positive or negative. There was one other expression I thought I noticed him imitating, but I can't describe it. I was vaguely conscious of it during the session and it was just giving me a weird vibe. Then later I thought he might have been imitating me or intentionally making exaggerated expressions. Has anybody experienced their t doing that? Am I imagining things?  If they do it, what's it for? |
You are not crazy.
"Mirroring" is a tool therapists use in order to make patients like them:
http://www.body-language-secrets-rev...-language.html
mirroring body language secrets can be used as a tool for building rapport. Being similar or having someone similar in your vicinity creates a feeling of ease, comfort, being understood, protected (should there appear a threat of any sort, there's two of you now), etc.
So you can use the power of mirroring to create these feelings in the one you are mirroring. They'll then subconsciously link all those feelings to you (after all, you are the one actively mirroring) and rapport is naturally going to develop between you. How, whom and from where should you mirror body language? Whom - that's easy, the person you want of course! How to do it is by assuming the same posture, doing the same movements with your hands, in all respects using your body in a similar fashion to theirs.
A technique of creating instant rapport is by "faking" body language. When someone is interested in a discussion, they tilt their head slightly. When you know someone is interested, you could do the same to "simulate" you deep interest in what they say. And it works!
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