Excellent proverb.

In the span of 10 months she goes from saying I have two wonderful kids to saying they're dysfunctional and making her mentally ill. Ugh!

The biggest blow ups at his place are after my ex and I actually have a calm, functional, productive discussion about any problems the kids are having and we brainstorm on a possible solution that DOESN'T revolve around coming down harder on the kids than the problem calls for.

T says I shouldn't care AT ALL what my ex thinks. OK, fine, but when our kids are struggling and it involves both households, doesn't it make sense to try and come to a workable solution for the majority involved?