Markyman,

Can you go back to the days and mindset when you were cultivating the friendship? The long-distance nature of your relationship I think will always cause some jealously on your part. Try to put aside your deeper feelings and go back to being friends and let things grow from there.

If you can't do that then maybe you do need to let go of her.

It's not pathetic or trivial. Your feelings are involved and those are never pathetic or trivial - but it is sad because you are somewhere that many of us have been under different circumstances.

I'm sorry I have no other ideas for you...