Vett - it is breaking my heart that you're still hurting. I remember when you first came here - your pain was palpable. And after 7 months.... well I know that it does suck. I clearly remember my (unwanted) divorce -- I was in the pits for the first month or two... then found great strength in a rebound... then sank again... then worked my way back up onto my feet.... then when I was feeling good again, for no apparent reason came crashing down again hard. I was in therapy for 2 hours a day, 2 or 3 days a week for months, trying to expedite the healing process. It took me about 2 years before I started feeling like myself again.

What helped?
- yoga, to remind myself of my center
- finding a new passion -- in my case, road bike riding
- blind dating, to prove that there are lots of types of people... some worse, but some actually better than my ex, even though that was a tough concept to stomach at the time
- long healing vacations; northern California, Europe
- taking classes to learn something new and meet new people
- can't stress enough therapy, but with the intent of recovering from the grief

Vett - I have to say that not more than 2 or 3 days goes by without me wondering how you are. I was sorry when you disappeared from the board -- I've been hoping to keep in touch with you. I know what your pain is about, and I do want you to be happy.

What have you been trying lately, and how determined are you to get past the pain and find new happiness? I thought my world had ended, but I did eventually find something that was even better than what I had lost. I know that kind of happiness is there for you, too. You have a good heart - I know that about you.

LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!