I probably should be more precise. I looked back at her message, and this is how she said it. . .

Yes, I did say I would bring matzoh balls if there were any left. there weren't. I'll bring them next time I make them, gladly. It's always nice to try something new.

Does that make it seem any better?

She's usually careful with me in how she words things because she knows i'm super sensitive and get my feelings hurt easy. She also knows that one of my main issue is emotional neglect by my parents as a kid.

That's what puzzles me about her. I see that she tries hard in alot of ways to make me feel special or worthy and NOT make me feel the way my folks did. But like a Murphy's Law, she always ends up saying or doing something that feels similar. We've had numerous ruptures, nearly all of them because of something she said or did that hurt my feelings and made me feel unimportant. Most of the time, i can see where I'm misinterpreting what she does, and that she does not intend what she does to make me feel that way. But at times, I just think that she should "know better" how i am, so as not to do things like this with the matzoh balls!


But what's so odd most times when we've had ruptures -- it is because she has said or done something (or not said or done it), and it has made me feel unimportant.