I am beginning to believe I am the "addictive emotional" person in a relationship with an "emotionally unavailable" person... This, of course, is NOT the 1st time for this kind of experience for me... Funny how it takes years for the light to go on.... Anyhow, in many, many respects, I and the person I am involved with are a very good match... compatible in many areas of interest... After dating for 9 months I am beginning to understand why this person at age 50 has never been married, nor in many long term relationships... I on the other hand have been married and was together with my ex for nearly 15 years... Any hoot... my questions are : Has anyone read the book "Emotional Unavailability"? and do you believe it to be a helpful source? and Is there any hope, or is it truly possible, for 2 people coming from opposite ends of the construct to be successful in having a healthy long term relationship... I am 47, he is 50 and I don't believe we want to live in therapy to make this work, but am certain we are committed to working on it... Thanks for any insight offered.