First off, thank you ALL so much for the support!!!!! Once again, I'm sitting here at work, Crying my eyes out because he's texting me and making me feel worthless again.

To answer some questions:

It sounds like your husband could use some therapy -- do you think he would ever consider it? Nope. He refuses. He says Im the one with problems. That a "real" wife would talk to her husband, and not some random guy, no matter who it is.

Has he been cheated on in the past? Yes, by an old girlfriend that was 3 or 4 years before me, and we met 7 years ago. So, it's not sure why this is all a problem now.

Not only haven't you cheated on him but you've taken all the possible precautions you can to make sure there isn't a HINT of impropriety on your part. To him, the fact that I'm even talking to another man is cheating. No matter who it is.

A few years ago, he snooped on my phone and he realized that he was a complete ahole about the whole thing. My friend J sent me a forwarded text with a silly male body part picture that was singing. Not long after that, J's brother, O, sent me the same text because he didn't know if I got it or not. (Note: O's been a friend of the husband's for 20 years.) Husband saw the picture that O sent, and flipped out. Said that I was receiving sexting pictures from his friend and that we both were pieces of crap, blah blah blah...Even CALLED O and told him what a piece of crap he was for doing that, and never letting O explain anything. When he finally stfu and saw that O's sister sent the same forward to me right before that, he realized he was in the wrong and still, to this day, NEVER apologized to me, or to O.

You know, it's sad when my coworkers are telling me how much of an ahole he is, and most of them haven't even met him. He's told me that a "real" wife wouldn't hang around single women to have bad influences on them (but his single friends are ok!).

Today, he wrote me and asked how work was going, what my plans were for this weekend, etc. Now, all of a sudden, he's been texting me here at work for the past hour. He criticized me for not finding a therapist that accepts my insurance (because remember, only I'm the one with the problems), and he's said the following:

1. I must really love you to try to work through this. Most husbands would have left their wives.
2. When I lay down at night, I start thinking about it all and I get a knot in my stomach.
3. I'm not bringing it all back up, you just have questions to answer to me.
4. I mentally hurt every night. My stomach makes me sick, I get shakes, and I run the gamut on emotions every night.
5. You tell me you cut ties with that a-hole, but you can just lie to me and still be talking to him.

He's also freaked out that I work with men (at the other end of the building) and thinks I'm going to start screwing them, I guess. I guess I'd better find a job that no men are allowed at.

The more he texts me, the more I'm actually getting the guts to say, "you know what.... just f'ing leave. I'm so done." In fact, I'm about ready to risk my job to run home and slam the door wide open and say, "Call your mom now to come get you. You're NOT taking my car, and you'd better have your stuff out of here QUICK."