Right now, I think I am in this place. And really, it's fine (although I never would have been able to imagine that even 6 months ago).

T HAS meet so many of my needs, and he is still there, and will still meet them if I need him to. But it's just different now. I don't love him any less, and I don't feel any less connected, but I NEED him less. I used to have contact with him every day, and two appointments a week. I took a break for almost 4 weeks and I've seen him once since then. I think I've left him one phone message and sent one e-mail. And it's okay.

For me, there was a time in therapy when I NEEDED T, a LOT. And he met my needs SO consistently and SO patiently and SO lovingly. He never ever made me feel like "too much", and really, I had to have been the World's Neediest Client Now I am better at getting a lot of those needs met by other people in my life, and I think a lot of the big leftover childhood needs have finally been met.

I don't know what it will look like from here...if we will head into another intense phase of therapy (there is still one big issue we have yet to tackle), or if it will stay how it is right now, or if we'll say goodbye. But I do believe that if we trust the process, it will feel "right", however it turns out.

When I took my big break, T did say some things to me that he hadn't said before, about my importance in his life and the impact I've had on him. That felt good

I'm not sure if that answers your question...but that's my experience (so far)